"Accidental Christians"

Wow, what a great article!

What to ignore today

Our lives get more and more busy every day. We've got more information to process, more people to see, more things to read or watch or listen to. More things to tune into, more crap to ignore. Here's a great, short blog entry on that last part.

Happiness

This was in one of my "quote of the day" emails this morning. So true, and so easy to forget.

I am still determined to be cheerful and happy,
in whatever situation I may be;
for I have also learned from experience
that the greater part of our happiness or misery
depends upon our dispositions,
and not up our circumstances.
- Martha Washington

Got Stress?

As I was praying this morning, going through my prayer list for people who are really suffering (depression, recent loss of a parent, financial difficulties, unemployment, car accident, marital problems, prison), it suddenly occurred to me that if you are a Christian, you have the ultimate comfort.

This sounds harsh, but it isn't meant that way: none of this really matters. One day, sooner or later, you will stand before the Lord, all of your problems having been washed away, and you'll enjoy the bliss of God's company forever. That's really tough for some people to find comfort in, but I've seen others endure incredible hardship by leaning on that assurance.

There are secular ways to deal with things like this, and they often work: counting your blessings, or focusing on how much better you have it than most people, or thinking of how much worse it could be. But none of them is even close to God's comfort.

Right now I'm under more stress than at any point in my life. But I feel I'm handling it much better than at times when I had much less stress, but also much less faith. I pray a lot, and read the Bible a lot. If you are facing minor or major problems today, start with few of these verses, and lean on God.

• 1 John 2:15-17
• John 14: 1-4
• Matthew 10:16-39
• Matthew 6:19-34
• John 11:25-26

Edge Cases

I think we spend a lot of time arguing/thinking/stressing about "edge cases" in our religion. For this discussion I'll define those as issues that either don't directly affect us one way or another, are mentioned only briefly (and possibly not very clearly) in the Bible, or are just really complex, with lots to consider on either side. For example:

• What happens to a pygmy in Africa who never hears of God?
  
• Should our church support this or that program with its money?
  
• Will Jesus come back to earth physically and rule for 1,000 years?
  

A friend of mine made an interesting observation the other day: we have plenty to do trying to learn to love our neighbor and while we could, for example, spend hundreds of hours studying Revelation to decide what type of premillinialist we may be, is most of that time better spent understanding the sermon on the mount or the parables of the rich young ruler or the sower?

I'm not saying that anything in the Bible is unimportant - in fact I believe every word is there for a reason. But unless we are full time monks we only have a certain amount of time, energy, and attention. For example, if God thinks that loving each other is so important that he devoted paragraphs and paragraphs to it across several different books in the Bible, maybe that's something I should really try to do well before I spend 300 hours researching whether men are permitted to have long hair.

Think about what edge case may be distracting you, and contrast that with how well you did loving your neighbor today.

Elder Care

This may seem an odd post for me, considering that I know close to zero about this. However, my friend Cara Mason recently left Conditioned Air to focus on one of her true passions in life - being an elder care giver.

This is such an important service - and from what I can tell it is hard to find people who will love (not just care for) your relatives who need this. So please help spread the word about Cara and what she's doing.

The C.S. Lewis Institute

For all you C. S. Lewis fans: The C.S. Lewis Institute

Naturally this is a good time to mention one my favorite books...

Teeny Tiny Changes

One of the biggest problems we face in trying to improve ourselves is that we want big changes, and we want them now! Whether it is losing weight or learning something new - whatever your goal - it is hard to keep doing the things that will eventually get us to our goal. The feedback loop is just too long for us to gut through.

The only way to do this is to have a goal clearly in mind (I'm going to lose 20 pounds), decide on the things that will get you there (cut back on the 800 calorie desserts, exercise 3 times per week, etc.), understand that if you do those things consistently and for enough time, you'll eventually get there - then don't give up. You probably won't see a difference the first week. Only a slight one the second week, etc. But if you have faith that you are right about the things that will get you there, you just have to "turn the handle".

The problem is that turning the handle is really hard. We don't see results quickly enough and we get discouraged and give up. We often sabotage our efforts with negative thinking, and really, just don't believe we can do it.

Henry Ford said "Whether you believe you can or believe you can't, you're right" and I believe that to the very core of my being. If you will combine that belief with the Japanese proverb "Fall seven times, stand up eight" you will lose the weight, learn the subject, or achieve any goal.

You have to know that the feedback loop is there, that you'll eventually get to the point where you see the changes your efforts have produced, and then it will get a bit easier. But until then, you have to have faith in yourself, faith in your plan, and believe that if you keep pushing, the results will come.

Persistence

I'm a big fan of persistence. I think it is the ultimate power tool. With it you can conquer the world! Before its wrath, obstacles are blown away, problems fall by the wayside, setbacks are scoffed at. Whatever you are trying to accomplish, persistence wins.

So many people give up just before they turn the corner. If they could just see through the clouds, they'd see success.

Here are some of my favorite quotes on persistence:

• Ambition is the path to success. Persistence is the vehicle you arrive in. - Bill Bradley
  
  
• Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success. – Napoleon Hill
  
  
• Energy and persistence conquer all things. - Ben Franklin
  
  
• Persistence is what makes the impossible possible, the possible likely, and the likely definite. - Robert Half
  
  
• Great works are performed not by strength but by perseverance. - Samual Johnson
  
  
• Fall seven times, stand up eight. - Japanese proverb
  
  
• When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stone-cutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it would split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before together. - Jacob A. Riis, journalist and social reformer (1849-1914)
  
  
• Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan "press on" has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race. - Calvin Coolidge
  
  
• It is the `follow through' that makes the great difference between ultimate success and failure, because it is so easy to stop. - Charles F. Kettering

Marriage Conference

Gail and I attended a 5-hour marriage conference at Asbury United Methodist Church yesterday. It was called "Marriage, A Great Adventure" and subtitled "For anyone who is interested in applying biblical principles to help strengthen every marriage covenant to reveal the glory of God." It was created by Asbury and was just wonderful.

Few of us do enough things like this. A friend of ours (thanks Tish!) emailed me the info a few weeks ago - she & Tom were going and wondered if we'd be interested. My first thoughts were: I don't have time for that. Hey, I'm busy. Gail's busy. Where would Will stay? I've got work to do you know!

I forwarded the email to Gail who responded in like manner: "It being on a Saturday is the pits...however, if you want to go, sign us up." We both thought that if Tom & Tish were going, we'd at least be able to sit by someone we knew.

So we decided to go...and had a wonderful time. We sat with some old friends we hadn't seen in years (hi Jeff & Mary!), learned a ton of what the Bible has to say about marriage, and got closer as a couple. We are going to go back through our notes together, read the scriptures, and make sure we're following God's word in our marriage.

Two things come to mind:

1) Much of what we learned we already knew but weren't applying as well as we'd like - as Dr. Johnson said (quoted by C.S. Lewis in Mere Christianity): "People need to be reminded more often than they need to be instructed."

2) We will resist almost any form self-improvement at first. You don't have time to read that book. You'd rather listen to music in your car than the audio book. You've got things to do the day of that seminar. You know you've got a great marriage and don't need anyone's advice. You have to find a way to occasionally break through the excuses and just get started. It turns out that Tom had asked Tish to see if we were interested, and then he'd go - so we had both used each other to justify going - that's OK - whatever gets you there.

Netflix for Audio CDs

I recently ran across something I've been waiting for my whole life! I think it popped up in the little ads that run across the top of my gmail screen. It is called On the Go Books, and is basically Netflix for audio CDs. It works just like Netfilx - you pay a monthly fee, select a list of audio books, they send you one, you listen for as long as you like, then return it in the postage-paid mailer. This is going to save me a fortune in audio book purchases!

I'm back!

I initially started this blog in 2004 to share what I was learning about God. In the 3 or 4 years prior to that I had started down the path toward salvation and by the time I started to post God had become (and still is) the most important thing in my life. As you may have found, that last is an easy thing to say, but hard to live up to. I had all these ideas about sharing things I had started to discover, and hopefully encouraging others to move down the path as well.

What I found was that after a while I ran out of things to say. Or, more to the point, I ran out of confidence that 1) I knew a lot about God and 2) that it was only a matter of time until I pretty much had it down. Not to put too fine a point on it, but boy was I wrong! I finally started to realize that the more you know, the more you understand just how little you know. I didn't feel qualified to teach anyone much of anything so I just didn't post anything.

Recently I've been drawn toward taking up this blog again. I've started to use Google Reader and find that's such a great way to process information. I've started reading, and been inspired by, friend's blogs (like Tony's). I've realized that it is easier to sometimes post shorter thoughts than only longer articles that have to be written and edited over time. And I recently listened to this audio book, which got me fired up to post.

I've also decided to expand the content of this blog a bit. I've always been into self-improvement, listening to audio tapes/CDs in my car, reading self-help books, trying to amass and apply as much information as I could. As Christians we have to live in the real world, and I think everything we do should revolve around God. So I want this blog to not be a series of academic articles about God, but also about the challenges of living, working (in my case, running a business), worshiping, and struggling as a Christian.

So here I am. Some of you may be reading this because you know me and I emailed you to announce it. Others may have stumbled upon it. In any case, I hope you stay with me over time. I hope you share your comments. But mostly I hope I can think of enough stuff to write. (-: